As the weather grows crisp and leaves begin to fall, my thoughts turn towards transition and change. What are the changes to be considered this year in my life, and in the lives of my clients?
In particular, I think about the idea of letting go of that which is no longer serving us. Trees have a beautiful way of producing leaves to nourish them in the spring and summer, and letting those go when they are no longer needed over the winter. What are the behaviors or habits that we developed at a time when they were needed, but that we do not need to carry with us any longer?
This is a great question to ponder, as we celebrate the changing seasons with pumpkin carving, hot cocoa, and glimpses of vibrantly-colored leaves around us. Perhaps there is something we would like to shed, along with the fall foliage.
I encourage my clients and readers to ponder this question, and I do so for myself, as well. My goal this year is to work towards letting go of my routine when it starts to feel stagnant. When I look back on the years, I notice that I most value the times when I stepped out of my routine to seek a new experience. However, during the winter, it is so easy for me to fall into a comfortable routine, day after day. As the seasons change, I am making a commitment to continue to put energy into the process of change – challenging myself to find new ways to vary my routine, find new activities to try, and reach out to new people.
I wish you all a beautiful fall season, and encourage your reflections on transition, change, and letting go of that which no longer serves you.
Rose Kormanyos, MA, is a Licensed Independent Marriage and Family Therapist. She works at several locations: Clearview Counseling in Milford and Fairfield (www.YourClearView.com) and LifeMadeConscious in Pleasang Ridge (www.LifeMadeConscious.com). She is currently taking new clients at all locations.